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Career Talk The One and Only Wilma Fellman

Career Talk The One and Only Wilma Fellman

In this episode,  host Michelle Raz interviews her career coaching colleague and mentor, Wilma Fellman.   Wilma has been a licensed professional counselor for over 30 years, specializing  in ADHD, LD and other life challenges.  Her work has helped many people struggling to find the right career.   She is the author of The other Me: Poetic Thoughts on ADD for Adults, Kids, and Parents and Finding a Career That Works for You.  She, also, contributed to the book, Understanding Women with ADHD.

As a constant contributor to ADDitude Magazine, Attention Magazine and Blog Talk Radio, she continues to impact this niche population. Her work is the inspiration for Michelle’s book,  Happiness Passion Purpose,  and wrote the foreword as well.   You will have some great takeaways and insight from this episode.     To listen to past podcast shows go to www.razcoaching.com   where you can also download extra freebies including booking a free consultation session.

As a Board Certified Coach, with over 2,500 one on one coaching hours and Career Service Specialist, Michelle has the expertise you need to make your change. She has a gift of helping you tap into your hidden desire, dreams and aspirations through her career coaching method. She unearths your strengths and problem solves your perceived obstacles. You can live the creative life you have dreamed of (desire) and that is exactly how Michelle models herself. She believes in her clients. Her unique approach sets her aside from others, which helps you discover and make step by step action plans to FIND or REDEFINE YOU and your ultimate dream career and life.

Career Talk with Wilma Fellman

In this episode,  host Michelle Raz interviews her career coaching colleague and mentor, Wilma Fellman.   Wilma has been a licensed professional counselor for over 30 years, specializing  in ADHD, LD and other life challenges.  Her work has helped many people struggling to find the right career.   She is the author of The other Me: Poetic Thoughts on ADD for Adults, Kids, and Parents and Finding a Career That Works for You.  She, also, contributed to the book, Understanding Women with ADHD.

As a constant contributor to ADDitude Magazine, Attention Magazine and Blog Talk Radio, she continues to impact this niche population. Her work is the inspiration for Michelle’s book,  Happiness Passion Purpose,  and wrote the foreword as well.   You will have some great takeaways and insight from this episode.     To listen to past podcast shows go to www.razcoaching.com   where you can also download extra freebies including booking a free consultation session.

As a Board Certified Coach, with over 2,500 one on one coaching hours and Career Service Specialist, Michelle has the expertise you need to make your change. She has a gift of helping you tap into your hidden desire, dreams and aspirations through her career coaching method. She unearths your strengths and problem solves your perceived obstacles. You can live the creative life you have dreamed of (desire) and that is exactly how Michelle models herself. She believes in her clients. Her unique approach sets her aside from others, which helps you discover and make step by step action plans to FIND or REDEFINE YOU and your ultimate dream career and life.

5 Steps Into a New You for 2020

5 Steps Into a New You for 2020

5 Steps Into a New You

The ancestor of every action is a thought.   —Ralph Waldo Emerson

When you struggle with executive function challenges such as ADD, thoughts can be frantic, unbridled and elusive.  Do you laugh at people who ask you what your New Year’s Resolution is each year?    Your response might be that you don’t “play that game”, since you know all too well that it could not be a sustained change.  This can lead you to accept your short term goals and live life by the moment with no long term goals.   Yet, many have a deep yearning for more in their life, but they don’t know how to go about seeking lasting change.

I am not saying it is easy or that I have the solution.
What I am saying is that IT IS POSSIBLE with consistently sustained effort and accountability.
Real inner change and paradigm shifts come from a deep burning desire that aligns with your core values.

If you really want a change in your life that is going to help you feel and be successful, read on to steps to launch a new you.   Are you are not sure?  Ask yourself these questions.

Test your readiness for this endeavor:

On a scale of 1-10.   How badly do I want this change? 

Sit with your idea for change and explore how the change could make you feel. If I do X, then I would feel this way.  If the state of feeling is an improvement to your life, it can fuel your desire for change.  When you are connected with your feelings, it will motivate you to take action.

  • Move on if you rate yourself a 6 or more. No need to go further if you don’t have that deep desire for change.

What am I willing to modify or change in my life to make this happen?

Your current habits and routines are keeping you from reaching the desired change in your life.  People spend a lifetime developing their habits that create their realities on a day-to-day basis.  This is not something someone can change just by reading about it.  It will take a strategic plan that will most likely make you feel challenged to sustain the change.

When you have executive function challenges, you have an even harder time to sustain something that is not already a habit. With the right support system in place, I promise you can create new sustained habits and routines, but it will be WORK.

  • If you can honestly identify 2-3 things that you are willing to modify in your life to reach your goal, keep reading on.

What will my life look like in 12 months if I don’t bring this change into my life? What if I do? What would I gain? Or lose?

Timing is everything in life.   Is there a sense of urgency for the change in your life that you desire?   This can spur some good brain chemical energy to help you ignite the inner pathway to a new you.  It can also help in your accountability plan to keep you on course when things get dull and boring.

  • Can you identify real tangible gains in your life?  Get a pen and paper and get started with your individualized plan.
Your Personalized Road Map

5 steps into a new you in 2020!

  1. Visualize

This is an essential part of making your goal work. The process helps fire up your neurons to communicate your goals as if it was a real-life action and tell them to perform the acts.  This sets the stage for a pathway to a new you. Conceptualize what the new you would do on a day to day basis.  How will you interact with others? What does that look like for you?

       2.     Questions to get you there

What are the very first things that need to happen?

Is there something can you do to make that happen?

How fast can you ACT on it? Could you give it a timeline?

Who can hold you accountable for it?

  1. What is the next step?

Often times the excitement of the thought is enough to get you started but can quickly fade when it starts to look like a routine.

  1. Identify the possible points where you could get stuck:

Write down the areas that could derail you

What is the advice you can give yourself when this happens?

Use a journal to plan for each possible sticking point.

 

  1. Give this list to your accountability partner or coach. Check-in with that person each week to go over the goals and potential derailments.

How are you doing?
Celebrate?
Get back on track?

By creating a Road Map of what you want, steps to get you there and an accountability partner to help you stick to it, you can succeed at your goal of a new you!

Michelle R. Raz, M.A. Ed., is a professional executive function coach and educational consultant. Raz Coaching specializes in helping people with executive function challenges associated with ADHD, PTSD, Stress, TBI’s and ASD find careers they will love and land them. Read more at www.razcoaching.com/about Or sign up for the weekly blog or purchase my new book Happiness+Passion+Purpose.  It is packed full of exercises and strategies you can put to use immediately.

 

 

 

 

Best Gift to Give For The Holidays!

Give the gift of presence this holiday.  It is what makes for lasting memories as the gift that truly keeps giving!

Practicing “Mindfulness” as the Key to a Peaceful Holiday Season

“The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence.
When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.
— Thich Nhat Hahn

This holiday season is a great reminder of what truly makes memories that will last a lifetime. It isn’t the number of gifts we receive but rather the time we spend with our loved ones. In short, it’s the act of being present.

A person struggling with ADHD or other executive functions may need direction this time of year on how to become connected to the true gifts of the holiday season of love joy and compassion. The term “mindfulness” is the energy that helps us recognize the conditions of happiness that are already present in our lives.

As Thich Nhat Hahn, the renowned Vietnamese Buddhist teacher would remind the world to do — Be present, be in the moment and Enjoy life.

Here is a list of some ways you can help create a peaceful holiday: being mindful can bring you joy in every moment.
  1. Be connected to your breath.
    Conduct a simple breathing exercise of inhaling and saying to yourself, “I am here” Then, breath out and feel the air leave your body for a few seconds. This can bring you back into the moment and leave you feeling connected with yourself, again.

2.  Pick a healthy way to take care of yourself. Take a walk.
Walking mindfully and slowly while paying attention to the sensations on the bottom of your feet offer other personal experiences. Notice how the body moves as you walk with awareness. Take one step at a time.

  1. Prioritize your time.
    Start each day with a few minutes of quiet time. Reflect on the day ahead to help you prioritize your tasks and stay in tune with your emotional state. Recognize important things that need to be done. Identify any stressors and decide how you plan to address them. This process can help you follow through successfully each day.
  2. Actively listen to one another.
    As students get excited for the holidays and receive an academic break from school, it can be a stressful time in the household. Elementary students are exploding with boundless energy while anticipating once-per-year events. High school and college students are studying frantically for their final exams. Parents are preoccupied with navigating their holiday to-do lists.

The combination of feeling overwhelmed, being excited with the seasonal events and the reality of academic stress can severely affect family relationships.

Now is the time to encourage one another to identify the feeling.

What emotion are you experiencing? Are you sad, stressed, angry, anxious, joyful, disappointed, excited or embarrassed? Accept the authenticity of your feelings and express the emotions verbally.

By expressing your feelings it can release negative emotions. Also, by being an active listener, you can demonstrate that you are present and validate the needs of others.

When you practice mindfulness, you are in a state of concentration. Because you are , and can sustain that awareness, it is said that you are concentrated. By being fully concentrated, you have an opportunity to make a breakthrough – and to achieve insight.

This practice of cultivating stillness in your life, loving speech and deep listening will bring joy and happiness to others and yourself. This holiday, achieve the true gift of happiness and joy by being in the moment and being present for others. It may be the most joyous season yet when all feel that their needs are being heard and therefore met.

Michelle R. Raz, M.A. Ed., is a professional executive function coach and educational consultant. Raz Coaching specializes in helping people with executive function challenges associated with ADHD, PTSD, Stress, TBI’s and ASD find careers they will love and land them. Read more at www.razcoaching.com/about Or sign up for the weekly blog or purchase my new book Happiness+Passion+Purpose.  It is packed full of exercises and strategies you can put to use immediately.

Presence:  Best Gift to Give!

Presence: Best Gift to Give!

Give the gift of presence this holiday.  It is what makes for lasting memories as the gift that truly keeps giving!

Practicing “Mindfulness” as the Key to a Peaceful Holiday Season

“The most precious gift we can offer others is our presence.
When mindfulness embraces those we love, they will bloom like flowers.
— Thich Nhat Hahn

This holiday season is a great reminder of what truly makes memories that will last a lifetime. It isn’t the number of gifts we receive but rather the time we spend with our loved ones. In short, it’s the act of being present.

A person struggling with ADHD or other executive functions may need direction this time of year on how to become connected to the true gifts of the holiday season of love joy and compassion. The term “mindfulness” is the energy that helps us recognize the conditions of happiness that are already present in our lives.

As Thich Nhat Hahn, the renowned Vietnamese Buddhist teacher would remind the world to do — Be present, be in the moment and Enjoy life.

Here is a list of some ways you can help create a peaceful holiday: being mindful can bring you joy in every moment.
  1. Be connected to your breath.
    Conduct a simple breathing exercise of inhaling and saying to yourself, “I am here” Then, breath out and feel the air leave your body for a few seconds. This can bring you back into the moment and leave you feeling connected with yourself, again.

2.  Pick a healthy way to take care of yourself. Take a walk.
Walking mindfully and slowly while paying attention to the sensations on the bottom of your feet offer other personal experiences. Notice how the body moves as you walk with awareness. Take one step at a time.

  1. Prioritize your time.
    Start each day with a few minutes of quiet time. Reflect on the day ahead to help you prioritize your tasks and stay in tune with your emotional state. Recognize important things that need to be done. Identify any stressors and decide how you plan to address them. This process can help you follow through successfully each day.
  2. Actively listen to one another.
    As students get excited for the holidays and receive an academic break from school, it can be a stressful time in the household. Elementary students are exploding with boundless energy while anticipating once-per-year events. High school and college students are studying frantically for their final exams. Parents are preoccupied with navigating their holiday to-do lists.

The combination of feeling overwhelmed, being excited with the seasonal events and the reality of academic stress can severely affect family relationships.

Now is the time to encourage one another to identify the feeling.

What emotion are you experiencing? Are you sad, stressed, angry, anxious, joyful, disappointed, excited or embarrassed? Accept the authenticity of your feelings and express the emotions verbally.

By expressing your feelings it can release negative emotions. Also, by being an active listener, you can demonstrate that you are present and validate the needs of others.

When you practice mindfulness, you are in a state of concentration. Because you are aware, and can sustain that awareness, it is said that you are concentrated. By being fully concentrated, you have an opportunity to make a breakthrough – and to achieve insight.

This practice of cultivating stillness in your life, loving speech and deep listening will bring joy and happiness to others and yourself. This holiday, achieve the true gift of happiness and joy by being in the moment and being present for others. It may be the most joyous season yet when all feel that their needs are being heard and therefore met.

Michelle R. Raz, M.A. Ed., is a professional executive function coach and educational consultant. Raz Coaching specializes in helping people with executive function challenges associated with ADHD, PTSD, Stress, TBI’s and ASD find careers they will love and land them. Read more at www.razcoaching.com/about Or sign up for the weekly blog or purchase my new book Happiness+Passion+Purpose.  It is packed full of exercises and strategies you can put to use immediately.

 

Home For The Holidays!

Home For The Holidays!

Home For The Holidays!  

As students get excited for the holidays and receive long academic breaks, it can be a time that adds stress to the family household.   Elementary students are exploding with timeless energy while anticipating the events of the season. High school and college students are planning their off time with friends. Maybe, they are even inviting out of town friends to stay at home with them. Or they are frantically studying for their final exams and can’t even respond to your calls about their plans for the break. (more…)

ADHD Makes For Some GOOD Stories!

In this episode, Michelle shares a very personal and entertaining story of living life with ADHD.  The scenarios that happen can be  stressful and chaotic events but can be fuel for entertainment later on.  This carpool soccer trip has quite a few turns and mishaps anyone  can appreciate.   This is a perfect example how living life with ADHD is full of scenarios that just can’t be duplicated and is stuff that just cannot be made up!   A Starbucks stop for frappuccinos, the dog and six soccer girls eager to get to their game is the scene.  It set the stage for a major mishap while driving through the high mountains of Colorado to reach their soccer game.

To learn more about Michelle visit  www.razcoaching.com.   You can read recent blogs, listen to past podcasts and link up to her daily Instagram quotes   at instagram.com/razcoaching

Coming Home For The Holidays!

Coming Home For The Holidays!

Coming Home for the Holidays!

The holidays are approaching and I am so excited to see my college kids! Well, sort of.   We have gotten used to a routine without them and honestly a much cleaner house. Do you have this kind of conflicted tug on your heartstrings when family comes home from college and kids are home from school breaks?

Home for the Holidays with ADHD (more…)