Talk about change, this pandemic has made a huge impact on how the world works, thinks and lives. Working from home has become a part of the new normal. During these challenging and uncertain times, almost all businesses large and small has made a transition to work remotely. Having objectives that would be beneficial for both the company and the employee, aiming to protect the people and to keep the business up and running. While it is mandatory to adapt to big changes like this, people with ADHD tend to think that they cannot work from home.
The reality is, you can!
In this episode I share some of the tips on how to start working from home.
First and golden rule: Do not check your emails before your start to work
Staying and working at home has become a challenge for everybody but it will become easier when you finally found the proper ways and strategies that goes along with it. It may be hard but it is not always a challenge. The best attribute that can help you is to be creative and think of what can help you achieve and deliver work in no time.
For all our friends with ADHD, everyday can be tough but look at it as an opportunity to be better, to be more productive and to be more creative than yesterday. The tips above are just some of the guidelines that will help you overcome the thinking “I can’t work from home” because, you can!
Listen to Ross, a college student with ADHD, talk with Academic and Career Coach Michelle Raz of Raz Coaching about his Challenges with ADHD as a college student.
In this episode Ross and Michelle dig deep into his journey through figuring out what works for him to be a successful college student managing ADHD on his own. You will learn the words of advice Ross got to get through the boring and mundane work and how he had to look within himself to find solutions to his problems. The support source he has received enables him to face his failures and feeling of shame. Hear what it took to get him on a positive academic path.
A key takeaway for him and pivotal question he began to ask himself when procrastination and low motivation set in was:
“Where has this procrastination led me in the past and did I like that?”
Learn where this journey has taken him
Hear where he is now academically
This is a great episode for parents of ADHD college students and motivational for ANY current or future college student.
Please forward and share with someone you feel needs to hear Ross’ story.
If you want more podcasts, blogs, videos on life with ADHD visit Michelle’s website at www.razcoaching.com or www. coachingacademics.com. or email her at firstname.lastname@example.org. Also, you can follow her at www.Instagram.com/razcoaching. She has many mini blogs with tips of inspiration. There’s something in one of her outlets there for you that can help you with your ADHD struggles and challenges. She even has an App on her website to ask questions. “Ask Raz!”.
Overcome Obstacles Instead of Being Overcome by Them
A 4-part story of adversity, courage, hope and success for one TBI survivor
This is one of a four-part series of how one traumatic brain injury (TBI) survivor overcame obstacles to improve her quality of life when appropriate resources seemed out of reach. These obstacles and challenges associated with TBI survivors include many skills associated with execution functions of the brain. These skilled functions can be thought of as the command center of the brain that controls the cognitive processes such as decision-making, impulse control, attention, emotional regulation, and working memory.
Here is the first part of her story.
Healing is a continual process, but for this TBI Survivor, I made a choice to overcome obstacles instead of being overcome by them. Do not get me wrong, there have been, and still are some tough days, but with determination and a willingness to change, anything is possible.
Over eleven years ago, my life drastically changed on a fall day as I was driving to Steamboat Springs, Colorado in a snowstorm for a class. We all know how Colorado weather can be; sunny one minute, a few miles down the road and a few minutes later, a complete whiteout has greeted you with full force. As I was making the final turn toward the West Summit of Rabbit Ears Pass, I noticed a vehicle fish-tailing on their side of the road and decided to pull as far right on the shoulder as I could hoping the car would pass, I could make a sarcastic comment about their driving, then be back on the way to class.
I did not make it to class but, I did survive a head-on collision with the side of the other driver’s vehicle. Not only was life as I knew it changed but my ambitions for my career were crushed as well.
Well, I went from being a semi-respected member of the community to the town joke.
Memory, balance, speech, processing, and cognitive issues made me different; insignificant in the minds of many who, instead of trying to understand the abrupt challenges in my life, people chose to judge and diagnose me to be someone I was not. I lost friends, family members had no idea how to deal with me or communicate with me so, it was just easier for them to write me off as a “freak”. People I called friends called me, “different, odd, awkward, and consistently inconsistent”. Great on the self-esteem, I tell you (sarcastically speaking).
There were limited resources within the community I lived and the husband at the time, scared the crap out of me when he drove me to and from doctor appointments and surgeries. It took me over a year to get behind the wheel again.The marriage did not survive, but my mild traumatic brain injury was not the only reason.
Do you know what it is like to walk into the store or post office and see people whisper into one another’s ear while looking at you from the corner of their eye? Nah, they were definitely not talking about me, and they were so secretive, I had not noticed. Right…
I apparently hired a lawyer to represent my best interests but I don’t recall signing the paperwork, but when it was all said and done, I was hurt in the accident so they could benefit from my pain and suffering. On one of the few encounters I remember with the lawyer’s Junior Associate (my mood swings and emotional dysregulation were too much for the real lawyer), it was mentioned that I should lose my home, be broke, and accept that I would never have worth-while employment for the rest of my life.
I guess if I had bought into what they were selling, they would have gotten more of my settlement, and they got most of it. That was just enough motivation for me to realize I did not want to be the person they decided I was going to be. Boy, did I make a few sharks angry. Who cares about what their words did to my self-esteem?
Oh yeah, being different means being insignificant, right? Wrong!
One afternoon a year-and-a-half after my accident, I sat at my kitchen table in despair, crying, and thought I could not live the way I had being living anymore. I was afraid to drive, the help I was getting was minimal, and the then husband was about as available as a live operator in a computer-operated call center. I was ready to give up and had grown resigned to the idea of my disappointing new life, trying to find acceptance of my circumstances even though I struggled to accept the new me.
It was tough because I could still remember how I use to be, I just did not know how to reach that person. We had been permanently disconnected. I sat at that kitchen table and surrendered and prayed. Something had to give. Does anyone reading this understand where I am coming from or what I am talking about?
Within my next post, I will share about healing; Lisa style.
Many beliefs can limit yourself in pursuing your career or lead you down a career path that is not a good match for you. It is important to know yourself and the type of career you are considering and the requirements you need to be successful in the career. You could get headed in the wrong direction for years if you hold onto some of these beliefs that do not match up with your personal characteristics, interests and dream.
10 Myths about choosing a career debunked
1. All people who are good at music make successful musicians.
The problem with this kind of statement is that it leaves out many details it takes to be a musician. There are skills needed to be successful. As well as knowing how to play music, there is a commitment to practice or interpersonal skills to help promote the music and financial components for budgeting.
2. All people who learn differently (LD) should go to vocational training programs
People who learn differently and have a strong support system, have gone on to have great careers as in business, science and entertainment industry. There is a learned gift developed by having to navigate life when you have a learning difference. It is the tenacity to work through problems, rebound from failure and celebrate the smaller step successes as they learn patience. If the passion and desire to work toward the career goal is there, you can reach it.
3. All people with ADHD are creative and should own businesses.
While creativity is a hallmark trait used to describe people with ADHD, it doesn’t mean they have the operation skills to own a business. The skills it takes to own a business include time management, long-range thinking, financial discipline, interpersonal skills and more. It takes a lot of hard work and knowing when to pull in help through resources to run a successful business.
4. All people with good grades become top professionals
People that inherently get good grades and don’t have to work hard in school may not have developed adequate coping skills needed to deal with the stress and obstacles. It can hinder themselves in striving for high professional success levels.
5. All people who are good with people should go into sales.
Excellent interpersonal skills are needed in the sales industry as well as a tough as nail attitude for rejection and failure. If you are sensitive to rejection and struggle to motivate after a letdown, then sales can be a challenging field for you.
6. All people who make career changes later in life are discriminated against.
People may fear what others may perceive with a late in life career change, but could they be curious and even envious? YOU can be the trailblazer to model how it can be done for others. Your perception may be at play in a situation like this.
7. All people with good educational backgrounds do well in careers.
Education is just a piece of the puzzle that makes up what it takes to do well in a given career. Education is another way to get an edge on your career, but the other factors are equally important.
8. All people with special challenges can expect to achieve less in their lifetimes.
This is a great myth to bust as we can go through the list of people with challenges that have contributed enormously to our society. Hellen Keller, Walt Disney, Albert Einstein, Keanue Reeves, just to name a few.
9. All people who made career choice mistakes should start over
This is the time to pull together the lessons learned and see how it may apply to something within their career choice. Within a career field, there are many options. For example, If your dream was to be an actor because you love the creative aspect of films but found that you do not like the stress of memorizing lines, look at closely related field within the film industry such as production management or scene development or coaching.
10. All people have one true career destiny.
It is unusual to find someone who has stayed within one career their whole life these days. People have many options to work from home and this has opened up options for people to investigate free-lance fields that bring a variety of work options and paths to consider. As we go through life, your needs and interests change. Our society is accepting of new ways to employ people and judge their performance wherever they are based. This lends itself to allowing people the freedom to pursue dreams that may not have been thought possible in the past.
Go for your potential in life!
by debunking these 10 Myths about choosing a career
There are many opinions out there for every statement made regarding a career path one might choose. Do not limit your potential in life by believing everything at face value. Look at the counter-argument like I did in the above scenarios. This type of critical response is a process to get in touch with your true inner beliefs.
If you have an interest and desire for a career path and see a personal limitation that would keep you from being successful, I encourage to go through the exercises of debunking the thought with an alternative view. This could be the first step in gaining the courage to face a challenge with the attitude of how can I navigate in this career field WITH my limitation? Is this an area I can work on to improve or do I need to find a modification or accommodation to be successful. Turn to techniques that bringer you closer to realizing the dream career such visualization or enlisting someone that can help you develop strategies in your weaknesses.
Your determination and consistent pursuit of the career can happen.
One of the earliest documented stories that I am aware of dates back to the 1960s. This was a period where people with disabilities where looked upon as defects and often hidden from the public by families out of shame and fear. Christy Brown, artist and author, fought every day for something and struggled with his inner critic to motivate and persevere. He began his passion for painting and writing to escape his burden of daily living and earned enough from his work to earn a living.
His first published book was translated into 5 languages writing it on a typewriter using only his left toes. In the first chapter of the book, My Left Foot, Brown describes how he could not be truly happy in life if he viewed himself simply as a cripple. He wanted more and created ways to make his dreams into realities despite not have arms not being able to walk.
He shattered these 10 Myths about choosing a career!
He says in a 1962 interview that it was when he was able to accept himself for who he was combined with the immense support of his family, that he was able to succeed in life. He offers advice to other people with disabilities that, with the right support, you can overcome any challenge. As he says, we all have challenges. Perhaps it is simply a mindset that sets apart this remarkable early example of overcoming tremendous difficulties to reach a fulfilling career and life.
Christy Brown’s accomplishment included artists, internationally best selling author and poet. This example of overcoming odds, fear, having courage and face stigmas and myth of people with disabilities in Dublin, Ireland, is quite remarkable at a time when people commonly institutionalized anyone with mental or physical disabilities. His life story may have set a precedent in other countries to shift their limiting beliefs of the capacity of people with disabilities as a collective force. He is one of the first inspirations for any suffering with any type of challenge.
I’d like to share with you a tool that I use with many of my clients. It’s an online planner. It’s a great tool if you need help with visual auditory and kinesthetic learning. It helps with motivation time management and just a great visual to get you started.
Each month the first step in using this planner is to create a Google spreadsheet. If you don’t have an account with Google, go ahead and make one. Once you have that account, then you will need to have all of your subjects or goals ahead of time so that you can put them across the top of the Google Sheet.
Once you complete this, color code them and then move on to the days the week on the left side of the spreadsheet. You’re going to put in the month and then below the month if you spell out the day of the week. Use the numeric number for the month date and year. If you highlight that box and drag it down, it will automatically populate all the days of the month. Once you do that, go ahead and save the document for the purpose of this. You can just say your name and you can say academic planner or you can say your name with planning goals. So that’s step 1.
Have all of your assignments due dates, tests, projects ready. You can find these in your syllabus or instructor’s website. Once you have those due dates. Go ahead and backfill them in. Start with the end in mind. Put in the due dates on the particular date that it’s due and then go ahead and put in homework assignments and anything else.
Now you have all of the assignments in and the big tests. What I’d like you to do now is to go through those important test dates, presentations, project deadlines and use the paint bucket tool at the top of the Google spreadsheet. You can click on it and choose the color palette. I like to use red just as a reminder since it stands out that it is an important due date. Go ahead and use that tool and highlight the cell that that particular date is due and color code it red.
What I’d like to do here is start with the end in mind and backtrack to chunk down the steps. It’s going to help you to be ready for that test presentation or project and make sure you’re giving yourself ample time. I like to tell students if you think that you’re over planning and giving yourself too much time, it’s not really true. Because what you’re doing is building in a what-if plan. You know life happens and you might not be feeling well or you might not be motivated on a particular day. If you have enough planning blocks set for that specific test or important project, then you have a little buffer built-in. So, it’s a good idea to just over plan and break down these steps into kind of micro, small chunks of blocks
You should have everything entered. What I like to do now is to go through and just bold out the subjects across the top. Make sure the dates are bold and then I put in anything red in bold too. It is really visually standing out for an important thing for you know you need to do. This is where the students really visually like this calendar. As you are completing an assignment, your accountability is to yourself by color, coding it using the paint bucket. Highlight the cell light blue as you complete things. The goal is to have as much blue on that page as you can possibly get.
Sometimes students like to even put their test scores on there too so they can go back and look at it in a different month and see that progress. Another thing you can do is to use the strikethrough key for missed work. Maybe you missed an assignment you were going to do but want to track it, so you’re going to use the strikethrough tool at the top. It’ll serve the purpose of letting you know that it was something that didn’t happen. It may be something you forgot to do and other times, it might be professors moving things around or occasionally they just abandoned things.
So, now you have the color-coding blue for completion or the strike-through if it’s a special circumstance and just didn’t happen and red for important things. Sometimes things are not always done, but they’re in progress. So on that we’re going to use the yellow bucket tool and highlight those so that you know you paid attention to it you’re on track. Still, you’re not quite done with it yet and you need to go through using this color-coding system will really help you know at a glance where you are what you need to get done and what your next step is supposed to be.
Now you’ve completed one month’s worth of work. Add a new month at the bottom of the spreadsheet by hitting the plus button rename it for the particular month you want to copy and paste your subjects at the top. Use the date populated that I discussed on the first step and start all over again!