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Limiting Beliefs Keeping You from Your Dream Career?

Limiting Beliefs Keeping You from Your Dream Career?

How Fear Of Failure Keeps Us From Pursuing The Career We Were Meant To Do

“Hope and fear cannot occupy the same space. Invite one to stay.” -Maya Angelou

When you fear failure, you paralyze yourself into a career that’s not right for you. And a career that is a bad fit permeates into your efforts and job performance. You may refrain from speaking up to demonstrate leadership skills because you don’t want to rock the boat and maybe lose your job; or, in your situational-induced restlessness, routine tasks seem insurmountable. The effort of trying to conform yourself into a badly fitting job wears you out.

limiting beliefs

Deep down you may already know what the right career is for you, but you’ve convinced yourself it’s beyond your grasp because the thought of possibly not getting what you want is just too painful or out of reach. Instead, you drift along feeling unfulfilled, unmotivated, and uninspired; going through the motions every day, trying to convince yourself it’s not so bad. But it is so bad, and I want better for you! I want you to come alive each morning, eager to get to your job, excited to see what the day brings, then returning home feeling satisfied with your accomplishments.

Move Past The Fear To Your Dream Career

If this sounds impossible, take heart.

Some of my clients who had locked themselves into a profession that was wrong for them found the courage to break free. They found a career that spoke to their passion and strengths, and they are thriving. You can too, even if you don’t yet know what that perfect career is. 

The first step is for you to acknowledge the fear that’s holding you back, because until you acknowledge it you can’t let it go. Many of us have been taught to either bury our fear and pretend it doesn’t exist, or to bluster our way past it. Neither of these support you to liberate yourself from a poor situation.

You need not feel ashamed about your fear of failure, which often comes about because of past failures we’ve either experienced or observed. As Thomas Edison said when he invented the light bulb after many experiments, “I have not failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” 

You likely have found ways that won’t work –we all have. What’s important is that you are able to move past any self-judgment to find the lessons. Ask yourself what you’ve learned from past experiences. How you would make different choices if you faced the same situation in the future? These experiences contain the seeds of a strategy you can follow to pursue the career you were meant to have.

There Is No Shame In Your Fear

There is no shame in letting your fear hold you back from a career that you’ll love. I encourage you to have compassion for yourself. Fear comes about because we see our past choices in a negative way that makes us limit ourselves out of a belief we can escape future pain. You did the best you could at the time; you made the choices you believed were right. Since you can’t change the past, why not ask yourself what you can do different in the future? Often we fear failure and don’t take action because we expect others to judge us and find us lacking. 

We worry we’ll lose their respect. Since by nature we’re social creatures who don’t want to lose other’s approval, the thought of being judged is particularly painful. Nonetheless, I encourage you to release the need for approval that keeps you stuck. 

Be Inspired By Others

Next, let yourself be inspired by people who have overcome their fear of failure and are highly successful in their chosen field. Examples that come to mind are author Stephen King, Microsoft founder Bill Gates, and the singer/dancer/actress Beyonce. Their stories are freely available online.

But your inspiration doesn’t have to come from famous millionaires and billionaires. If you personally know someone who overcame their fear, I encourage you to find out how they did so. Ask if they would share their insights and suggestions, or if they would be willing to meet with you to support you. 

A person who believes in you and encourages you is a godsend, especially for the times you feel down and discouraged and just want to give up. 

Invite Hope

Even a a few minutes of well-timed support can make the difference between hope and fear. And as Maya Angelou said, both can’t occupy the same space. So, invite hope to stay with you. Tell the fear of failure to get lost. You’ve got better things to do. You’ve got a wonderful career to pursue!

Raz Coaching specializes in helping people with executive function challenges associated with ADHD, PTSD, Stress, TBI’s and ASD find careers they will love and land them. Read more at www.razcoaching.com/about Or sign up for the weekly blog or purchase my new book Happiness+Passion+Purpose.

Your Ups and Downs in life Create Career Opportunities!

Your Ups and Downs in life Create Career Opportunities!

How To Find A Career That Speaks To Your Passion

“Life is struggle.”

                        Buddha

Successful CareerEveryone goes through ups and downs in life, which I see as something positive. This may make no sense to you. You may wonder if I’m an advocate for suffering! I’m not.

But I know that within the challenges you’ve experienced are significant opportunities to discover a career will be utterly passionate about. And because challenges are inevitable, I want to help you find a way to see them as the fertile ground for career fulfillment they are.

Have A Career You Love Instead Of One You Were Typecast Into

If you’ve ever been pushed in the direction of a particular profession based on something other than your passion, then take heart from my client Josh’s story.

Josh was a college student who was failing his degree program in neuroscience despite his high ACT science scores. Because he’d been diagnosed with ADHD, his family assumed it was simply a matter of developing compensatory academic skills. Although we worked on his skills, I sensed there was more going on, and we investigated whether neuroscience was the right field for him. It shortly became evident that Josh had intense passion and strength—just not in neuroscience!  Instead, Josh had always dreamed of working in an investigative field as a detective, like Sherlock Holmes.

After researching his options, Josh decided to switch majors and study Global Security, a field that involves gathering intelligence and putting diverse chunks of information together like pieces of a puzzle. It meant he would help keep people safe, just like Josh’s favorite detectives.

At first, he saw his academic and career transition challenges as insurmountable. Not only was his GPA low, making schools reluctant to accept him, Josh had internalized a strong belief that he was “bad at school.” Although he wholeheartedly believed Global Security was the right program, at first he was reluctant to apply.

Together, we developed a strategy he followed to raise his GPA and find academic officials who were able to appreciaate his passion instead of assessing his application based only on his transcripts. He applied and was accepted into a Global Security studies program.

For Josh, the difference between studying something he loved and something he had been told by others to study was incredible. He was anything but bad at school; in fact, he had a near perfect GPA in graduate school.

8 Questions To Help You Figure Out A Career You’ll Love

I have no doubt Josh will be incredibly successful in his chosen profession. Imagine though, how things may have turned out had he not been willing to deal with his challenges, dig deep, and discover a career he was passionate about.

You can start right now to figure out a career you will love. Set aside a little bit of time, be totally honest with yourself – even if it feels a little ridiculous! – and enjoy the adventure of answering these questions:

1.   What motivates me in life?

2.    What have I wanted, but never gotten, in life?

3.    What energizes me? How?

4.    What brings me the most joy? Why?

5.   What are my biggest interests?

6.    What do I REALLY, REALLY want in life?

7.    Who do I enjoy being around? Why?

8.    How can I turn these loves and desires into a statement of purpose for the next several years of my life?

When you’re finished answering them, you’ll have gained insight about yourself as well as some career possibilities that speak to your passion.

If you find this a little daunting, don’t worry. This is when a career coach comes in handy, to support you through the times you feel overwhelmed or stuck.

Find Your Purpose

Being stuck in a job that doesn’t fulfill you is like dragging through life smothered in a wet blanket. Sure, you have a paycheck coming in. The bills get paid. But it’s not much fun to spend your days uninspired and unengaged, especially if you’re also struggling with issues that you’ve been told limit your career choices.

Instead, I want you to experience the satisfaction of discovering a career that speaks to your passion. I encourage you to use the wisdom you gained from dealing with and overcoming your challenges to sharpen your self-awareness and home in on the perfect career choice with you.

Raz Coaching specializes in helping people with executive function challenges associated with ADHD, PTSD, Stress, TBI’s and ASD find careers they will love and land them. Read more at www.razcoaching.com/about Or sign up for the weekly blog or purchase my new book Happiness+Passion+Purpose.  It is packed full of exercises and strategies you can put to use immediately.

ADHD Is it a PROBLEM or OPPORTUNITY?

ADHD Is it a PROBLEM or OPPORTUNITY?

Your Challenges Are The Key To Enhancing Your Career

 

When you feel like you’re grinding through your life, faced with challenges that seem to go on and on and you wonder what good could ever come of them, pay attention to this:

“All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me.” –Walt Disney

Problems or Opportunity

You may think your challenges are the universe testing you for some unimaginable reason, but I know you can draw on them to substantially enhance not only your career but all of your life.

I have witnessed this with many of my clients who are now thriving in their careers.

A Woman Re-Invents Herself Out Of Her Challenges

One client of mine who had been diagnosed with ADHD and lived with the effects of a traumatic brain injury is a great example.  She had periods of mental fatigue and brain fog that made a 9-5 job difficult for her.

During her years as a patient, she had learned the ins and outs of the American health care system. As a single mother of two daughters who themselves struggled with academic and behavioral issues, she had to rely on public assistance.  At desperate times she had resorted to fast money to support them by working as an exotic dancer. This work was temporary because she desired to not just entertain people but to impact the world in a positive way, especially by helping those in similar situations as herself.

Over time, my client had melded these two very different worlds. As an exotic dancer, she was a charismatic performer who exuded confidence in front of others. As a low-income patient, she understood the health care system and had become passionate about helping people whose income earning potential was limited through no fault of their own.  She formed co-ops and gained leadership positions in many areas of public assistance.  She had learned the legalities of government assistance and taken trips with social justice organizations to Washington DC to advocate for better treatment of low-income families and the chronically disabled.

I knew as soon as I met her that she was a dynamic salesperson and compelling public speaker. Her passion for helping others radiated from her, and she clearly had deep expertise about not only the US health care system but the government support in place for low-income and disabled people.

Together, we developed strategies to manage the symptoms of her ADHD and brain injury and maximize her productivity while always keeping in mind her passion and expertise gained through years of challenges.

Today, my client is a lobbyist who advocates for many causes. Her work has deep purpose; she discovered her “why”, as leadership guru Simon Sinek says. Lobbying has flexible hours that allow her to work around her cognitive symptoms and be available for her daughters except for the minimal amount of time she travels.

She Refused To Let Her Struggles Limit Her

If my client had let herself be defined by her past, or limited by her struggles, she would not have discovered her meaningful career.  But because she kept her mind open and her belief in herself strong, she was able to see how rising to her challenges had enhanced her life rather than detract from it.

We didn’t minimize or gloss over the things she’d faced in her life. Rather, we laid them out, took an honest look at them, and found the riches. Then we got to work creating a new career for her, one she loves and in which she’s thriving.

Find The Riches In Your Own Challenges

I encourage you to examine your life and discover the talents and expertise you’ve developed as you faced your challenges, just as my client did.  Many of us sense we have strong skills and unique expertise lying right below the surface of our everyday life, and we’re right.  We just need ways to see our struggles as the key to a fulfilling career rather than limitations to one.

And you don’t have to do this alone! A supportive third party such as a career coach can help you uncover the full range of your talents and abilities as well as support you if you falter and feel “not good enough”.

Raz Coaching specializes in helping people with executive function challenges associated with ADHD, PTSD, Stress, TBI’s and ASD find careers they will love and land them. Read more at www.razcoaching.com/about Or sign up for the weekly blog or purchase my new book Happiness+Passion+Purpose.  It is packed full of exercises and strategies you can put to use immediately.

 

 

 

 

Transform Life Challenges Into A Perfect Career

Transform Life Challenges Into A Perfect Career

How To Transform Your Life Challenges Into A Perfect Career

Most of us perceive the challenges we’ve experienced in our life to be barriers or limitations on our choice of career. For example, if you have a learning disability you may believe you’re not cut out for a career requiring a lot of writing and researching. You may feel your lack of detailed understanding of business financials means you can’t be a corporate executive; or, conversely, your love of numbers and spreadsheets prevents you from being an effective people manager.

But when you dig down into the core of the challenges you’ve experienced, you mine the gold nuggets of your strengths, interests, and talents forged as you went through your struggles.

The Next step in life

Be Proud Of The Challenges You’ve Faced

While there are many people who go through similar challenges, your history and personality uniquely shape your responses to and outcomes of your struggles. Sometimes without even realizing it, you hone keen self-awareness you never would have without the circumstances you encountered.

Be proud of your challenges; they’re the source of so much of your resiliency and wisdom.

Your Challenges Become A Treasure Map

Here are 5 steps to draw on your wisdom and map a route to guide you to the perfect career for you. Gather up a timer, a pen or pencil, and a notebook. Choose a time when you won’t be interrupted. Sit in a quiet place and set the timer for 30 minutes. Then:

  1. Spend the first few minutes sitting quietly with your eyes closed.
  2. In your notebook, quickly jot down the challenges you’ve faced. The more honest you are with yourself, the more value you’ll get from this exercise. There’s nothing to be hesitant about or ashamed of – simply note what happened.
  3. See if you can find any patterns in your past situations: how they came to be, how you reacted, how you solved them, how you felt. Be curious, like a scientist collecting data.
  4. Write down any interests, talents, or strengths you believe came about from your challenges.
  5. When the timer goes off, stop writing, sit back, and relax for a few more minutes. Reflect on the experience

A neutral third party such as a coach is incredibly valuable to help you unearth the most compelling details and revelations; to keep you honest with yourself; and to point out strengths or talents you may not even be aware you’ve developed.

Let’s Follow The Map To The Treasure: Your Ideal Career

Once you’ve finished the mapping exercise above, you can follow the map to discover your ideal career. Here’s how:

  • Choose a tool that will help you refine the information you’ve developed about yourself. I recommend Holland’s Codes and Gallup’s Strengths Finder to start. And I’ve developed a number of exercises for you in my book Happiness, Passion and Purpose, which will be published in early 2019.
  • With your coach’s support, brainstorm even more career choices. You want to be thorough and not rush through this stage.
  • Set aside quiet time to reflect on and rank the possibilities.
  • Allow yourself to envision and play with different scenarios. Sketching or writing out the possibilities will unleash your creativity; as you play, you’ll hone in on your top one or two choices.
  • Draft a plan to explore the practicalities: for example, any training or education you may need; the typical work schedule of your chosen career; and the salary range.

If you get bogged down, don’t be discouraged! Simply pause and come back to this process when you feel refreshed. You may need to complete it in stages over a period of days or weeks, and that’s fine.

What Riches Will You Discover?

Rather than perceiving your struggles as barriers to a fulfilling career, I’ve shown you how you can deliberately mine your challenges to discover a wealth of insight, wisdom, and clarity that will guide you to a career you’ll love.

The reason most people drift to and through lackluster careers isn’t a lack of awareness, or smarts, or information. Rather, they don’t believe they can transform their challenges into careers where they can soar

But you’re going to be different, right?

You’re going to set out on a voyage of self-discovery and reap the reward of a fulfilling career crafted on your passion, purpose, and strengths. And when you do, you’ll discover how valuable your struggles truly have been.

Raz Coaching specializes in helping people with executive function challenges associated with ADHD, PTSD, Stress, TBI’s and ASD find careers they will love and land them. Read more at www.razcoaching.com/about Or sign up for the weekly blog or purchase my new book Happiness+Passion+Purpose.  It is packed full of exercises and strategies you can put to use immediately.

The ultimate goal of ADHD career coaching

ADHD Career Coaching

Finding a Perfect Career Match when you have ADHD

The ultimate goal of career coaching is about finding the perfect career match to help you discover your hidden capabilities and talents. Career coaches work with people to help them in seeking to explore career options. This is a good fit for someone seeking help after college or experienced professionals contemplating a career change.

The elements of our Career Coaching Program start with your end goal in mind and a plan to execute your next steps.

It will provide the structure and planning needed.  You and your coach will analyze where you are on your road-map to a successful career.   With the help of an ADHD career coach, the path is clear and direct. The client and ADHD career coach work closely creating a tactical plan using customized strategies and habit building routines that will help you get to where you want to go in your career path.

“A vision without a plan is just a dream. A plan without a vision will leave you uninspired. But a vision with a plan can guide your destiny to reality.” – Michelle

 

Raz Coaching specializes in helping people with executive function challenges associated with ADHD, PTSD, Stress, TBI’s and ASD find careers they will love and land them. Read more at www.razcoaching.com/about Or sign up for the weekly blog or purchase my new book Happiness+Passion+Purpose.  It is packed full of exercises and strategies you can put to use immediately.

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